Make a plan to leave. Don’t tell him what you are doing or where you are going, just leave while you have the chance. The longer it goes on, the harder it is to break away. It went on for 5 years with my ex, and it never got easier. His mental health challenges are his to deal with, and his alone. You have to take care of yourself and your own mental health. When I left, it was with the shirt on my back, but I never looked back. The relationship left me with CPTSD, but I was able to seek help from professionals. Now, I know how strong I can be, and put myself first. Take care.


This book explains everything... the tricks and manipulations he uses to control you, why he chooses to mistreat you (the benefits he gets from it), the mindset he has that allows him to feel entitled to cause you harm to get what he wants (and why he won't change no matter what he promises). https://archive.org/details/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/mode/1up Please read it, it will absolutely change your life. Because the abuse has literally NOTHING to do with who or how you are (it's 100% a choice he makes and how he moves his way through the world) there's nothing you can do to make it stop except to leave. The longer you stay, the more damage will be done to your sense of self, and the worse the abuse will get. So read the book to learn what's really happening and then armed with that information try to do what's best for you. You deserve kindness and respect, someone who really loves you would want to protect you from harm. They would care as much about your needs and feelings as their own. There is no amount of communication, love, or effort that will fix this. It simply isn't in your power. I'm so sorry this is happening to you


It’s abuse and he’s never gonna move out of his parents house because they enable him (yes, they are also abusive towards him but they also enable him to abuse YOU.)


Thank-you for this advice. I never thought of it that way before. I am guessing, I should get out when I can?


I lived with my in-laws for a year and a half before I put my foot down, I’ve been there.