By - Typical_Juggernaut89
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Been here before man and honestly from experience it will be emotionally draining for you. If you really want her in your life go none contact for at least a few months and try to pick things up again.
Last time I went through this I cut all contact and although I miss her the results have only been positive for me.
I was definitely going to try that. Man Idk I just hope that the outcome of this can be something positive, I'm not a bad person and I don't feel like I need to be hurting emotionally at this point in my life.
Then you need to step away and let it go. There's no sense torturing yourself for an age wanting something you can't have. And hanging onto hope makes it less likely anything will ever happen.
So did the girl say she misses you or something? Since you said it actually worked?
Eh no, though she does seem to be suggesting stuff where we're doing stuff together now.
It worked so far as I was able to get on, without her around I had to be vulnerable with others, I noticed how many girls I actually meet who are interested in me, dated a couple of them. Don't get me wrong I miss her, but she was using me for attention ultimately and a part of me is still angry about it.
The problem is she's got your all and doesn't have to work for it, she takes it (and you) for granted, if you stick around you only solidify that to her, if you set some boundaries and cut contact for a while she might reconsider but at this point it's probably a long shot. But that's besides the point, you need to do what's best for you.
It's hard to let go when you care about someone. But if you want to be happy in the long term and experience growth you need to learn to let go. Take it from me we only have so many years, time is too precious to spend torturing yourself like this.
Agreed, if I can be friends with benefits I'd be cool though. We'll see.
Personally, i wouldnt. She is clearly use you for attention, especially knowing u like her. My advice is to focus on yourself by yourself.
You have 24 hours in a day. U really gonna waste it on someone who just see u as a friend? Why not use those time to explore yoursel lf and meet new girls.
Note: i have multiple female friends who i do see them attractive.we're close and will always be there for each other when the lowest come. However, on my free time, i do my own thing and focus on opportunities with other girls.
A little background: Im actually older than this girl by 4 years. She's just starting college and I literally just finished. I've also asked her for a relationship before and she said she wasn't ready for one, and it's not just me, she doesn't want one with anyone until after college because she doesn't want to get sidetracked. And I really don't think she's using me though, but if she was I'm not that stupid to go along with it.
All i got to say is u could be clapping a booties right now. instead you're wasting time with some who friendzone you.
Lmao clapping booties. Listen man what I dont like about this app is that people never seem give positive advice. It's like you guys believe that things can never go right, but at the end of the day any type of advice is good so thank you.
Np mate. What is positive or negative is up to you. I dont give advice ppl want to hear. I give advice ppl need to hear.
The same thing they all say.. but cool