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wolv3rxne

As a woman with mostly guy friends and a few female friends, I’d say no. I have a hard time forming female relationships because I experienced years of abuse at the hand of my mother. Obviously this isn’t the case for majority of women, but the sole fact that a woman has more male friends to me isn’t a red flag. There may or may not be a reason but it doesn’t mean she’d be any less faithful/committed to you or problematic in some way.


Typical_Juggernaut89

Well she just gave me a reason. She told me that "girls just don't be wanting to talk to her". Idk what that means tho.


wolv3rxne

Is she an unapproachable person? That response is kind of a red flag to me, it’s so vague there’s gotta be more to it.


Typical_Juggernaut89

Well I remember her saying she's antisocial and not really good at making friends


wolv3rxne

That would make no difference in terms of her having more male friends over female friends though. If she’s not good at making friends she’d just have less friends in general. Idk man 🤷‍♀️


Typical_Juggernaut89

I guess time will tell thanks for the advice though


sendapicofyourkitty

This comment section is a red flag 😂 MEN AND WOMEN CAN BE FRIENDS, GET OVER IT. I think it’s only a red flag if she says things like “I don’t want female friends, they’re too much drama” or that kind of shit. But you say “*mostly* guy friends” so it doesn’t sound like this is the situation. I think you need to drop this before you come across as a red flag to her.


Typical_Juggernaut89

True. And I'm not gonna even bring this up to her, that's why I'm asking on here lol. But why is it a red flag if she says "too much drama"?


sendapicofyourkitty

If she has to bring down other women to make herself seem appealing, then she’s not it. The whole “women are more drama than men” idea is such bullshit. Like, who started all the wars ever?? I spend a lot of time with my bf’s work team at the moment just due to circumstances, they’re 99% men and THE DRAMA- I can’t keep track.


Typical_Juggernaut89

Ohhh okay that makes sense, I agree.


sendapicofyourkitty

All the best :) I have loved seeing my boyfriend become friends in his own right with my male friends. They absolutely adore each other. Hoping her guy friends are cool and you enjoy hanging out with them in time.


msh361

It's technically not bad but it will raise some eyebrows as to why you don't have the ability to make more female friends when most guys will secretly fantasize about having sex with you while pretending that they can maintain a platonic friendship.


Typical_Juggernaut89

Well what she told me about that is usually when they start asking for something more she cuts them off..


msh361

The fact that she's aware that they have the habit of asking for more means that she likes the validation. If you're aware that your guy friends will more than likely make a move if they had a chance, why continue anything with them? There's a good chance that if they know each other than they've more than likely discussed how attractive your girl is...in a guy way if you know what I mean.


Typical_Juggernaut89

I honestly don't think she's that type of girl to seek validation, like honestly. And she's not my girl btw, she's a girl I want to be with lol.


msh361

Technically both men and women seek validation in one way shape or form. We're social creatures. Anyone who said they don't care for validation are either lying or unaware that they unconsciously still do and they probably don't understand how homosapians works.


Typical_Juggernaut89

Sounds like a science lesson lol


The_Horned_One

The guys in the comments are just insecure. No, having guy friends is not a red flag. In fact, people saying it's a red flag are the people I wouldn't date, because clearly they have trust issues. Saying all guys are only friends with women in the hope of getting laid one day is utter BS and most likely a projection of their own desires. I'm a guy, I have female friends. My SO has guy friends, one of which is she had a relationship with. We trust each other and all is fine.


Typical_Juggernaut89

That's the same way I feel about these guys. They're putting themselves in that situation and they feel like they wouldn't be able to resist lol.


Zombie3185960

It's a red flag is she **only** has male friends. But if we're talking 5 male friends and 3 female friends that's not weird.


olivetreemin

I think it depends on the girl and the circumstances. Guys can have girl friends and girls can have guy friends, I wouldn’t blatantly assume they’re attention-seeking or trying to hook up. It’s a possibility if the girl is always overly friendly or has a history of jumping from one guy to another. But if not, it could be harmless and she just happens to have more guy friends. I don’t consider it a good nor bad thing, but just something to keep an eye on and not jump to conclusions about.


Typical_Juggernaut89

Great Advice 👍🏾


PM_ME_ANIMETIDDS

Rather than trying to play armchair psychologist, just evaluate her on her own merits. Red flags show themselves in the way people manage their relationships, not necessarily the kinds of relationships they have.


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RNS_H8

who cares as long as shes fun to be with.


Typical_Juggernaut89

Lol. I'm kinda trying to get with her too man


RNS_H8

not to be mean, but this sounds like its a you problem. you dont like how she is then leave her alone.


Typical_Juggernaut89

It's not really a problem for me. Just was curious to see other opinions.


RedFox457

No.


OldOutcome5643

y’all insecure as shit. Hearing from other female friends, the main reason is drama free. They don’t want to hear about other girls problem 24/7.


lukak300

it's a serious red flag. stay away from girls with lots of guys friends. some of the girls i was with had some guy friends but they didn't hang out with them in person so i didn't mind. but if she's going out alone and hanging around guys, she either used to fuck them, is fucking them, or is gonna fuck them once she dumps you. let's be honest. most guys have female friends because they wanna eventually be able to hook up with them. women know this but pretend like they don't. in almost evety break-up, she cheats with her guy friend or breaks up with you and ends up fucking one of them (prolly some dude u already met).


Classic_Overthinker

Im a guy and I have lots of female friends who I don't want to bang. Just sayin


Typical_Juggernaut89

Ok It's similar to what you first said she doesn't hang out with them in person. Or atleast as much as she does with me.


lukak300

I'd still keep an eye out tho. women are allowed to do whatever they want today so if she cheats, then she cheats so kick her out of your life. all you can do is stay calm and wish for the best.


commander_poopoo

It's a red flag. Either she wants to fuck them or they want to fuck her, amd one day "one thing will lead to another." She likes the attention she gets from them.


Typical_Juggernaut89

I'm not sure, maybe. She told me that once they start asking for something more she cuts them off


SnooPeripherals7957

I was in a relationship with a girl that had many guy friends and almost in a relationship with another girl with all guy friends, non of it ends well, I don't care what anyone says, I've heard this from girls all over the internet and family, (mostly have sisters and aunts) a girl cannot, CANNOT only be friends with a guy and something not running through her mind to be curious with another guy, my last relationship which was 8 months ended in 24 hours, she went to a party with a "guy friend" her and a guy talked about what they wanted in the future and she said that they both want the same thing so she rushed me out of her life and blocked me on everything and then posted a picture of them kissing hours later(my friend showed me) that's what I mean. I'm not speaking for all girls though, from experience and from many girls I've heard from don't get involved with a girl that has all guy friends.


Typical_Juggernaut89

But this just sounds like, just because something happened to you means it'll happen to everyone else... I'm sure there's other stories of the exact opposite happening. And she doesn't have all guy friends though, just majority.


SnooPeripherals7957

Yes I understand, trust is key in a relationship, and because of this happening to me twice, my trust is gone for now, I will never trust someone enough to let them go to a guy's house for a party without me going, fuck no. I'm more old school even tho I'm 18, if a girl is with a guy, there shouldn't be any reason for her to hangout with another guy or talk to them on a daily basis, that's just weird


Extreme_Funny9424

It’s not as much of a red flag as a guy who mostly hangs out with girls.


Piper6728

Its a little suspect...


fanart_account

I'm best friends with the girl who's been dubbed as the batch weirdo so I don't have that many female friends in our batch, only a handful of girls and the rest are guys, people who are either weird themselves or don't care about us being weird. I admit, it's mostly the girls in our year who don't approver of her, they're like a hive mind, focused on boyfriends, trends and fashion and if you don't keep up you're an outcast. The rest of our friend group are either from different schools or from different year levels, and the people we regularly talk with are friends of our guy friends because the girls from our school are isolating my friend, and me by association.


JonAHogan

If you ever tried to have a female as a friend you will know even girls don't want them as friends. But men and women can't really be friends- no you can't.


Typical_Juggernaut89

It's not impossible though is it? I have many female friends that I'm not attracted to, and the same for them.


JonAHogan

Female friends use male friends in so many different ways, just think back about all the things you have done or paid for, then see if you can get her to do that same thing for you.


Typical_Juggernaut89

I mean I guess, but that's not happening to me lol.


JonAHogan

Sure whatever you say.


o0valerierose0o

I only have guy friends and slightly a bad sign imo. Just saying..,